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A sensitive and insightful guide to understanding and remaining close to your adult child. An enormously practical and helpful book.”

Joshua Coleman, Ph.D., author of When Parents Hurt : Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along “



“Don’t Bite Your Tongue offers parents of adult children a way to take the 'bite' out of what can be complex relationships. Ruth Nemzoff provides the tools for fulfilling and meaningful relationships with adult children and ways to understand and correct the missteps that can easily occur. Her sage advice makes meaningful and fulfilling parent–child relationships possible throughout our lifecycles, a gift to all involved.”

Jaine Darwin, Department of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School



“Parents work hard to raise their children into adulthood and want to find a way to remain connected. Ruth Nemzoff avoids the blame game, and focuses on the positive ways parents and adult children can add meaning to each other’s lives. Don’t Bite Your Tongue is a smart and heartwarming guide to a life stage that’s been largely unrecognized. Every parent should read it!”

Caryl Rivers, author of Selling Anxiety: How the News Media Scare Women

“A groundbreaking book on how to foster parent-adult child closeness! You will laugh and cry as you recognize yourself in these pages, but most of all, you and your adult children will learn how to have a loving and supportive relationship.”

Jim Roosevelt, CEO of Tufts Health Plan, and Ann Roosevelt, co-founder, Massachusetts League of Environmental Voters

“A very wise book. It not only takes into account the perspectives of parents and adult children but helps us to understand how changes in society influence these perspectives. Its non-judgmental framework and helpful questions should foster important cross-generational dialogue.”

Rhoda Unger, author of Women and Gender: A Feminist Psychology

“Although tons of parenting books line the shelves of bookstores, very little exists to help parents of 20-, 30- and 40-somethings. Ruth Nemzoff has written an informed and readable book that covers most of the universal developmental issues faced by today’s parents of adult children. She encourages both generations to reflect on our inevitable differences, and advises us on how to speak respectfully about them. If her advice is followed, family relationships will be strengthened, improving life for all involved, including the following generations of children.”

— Linda A. Braun, former director of Families First Parenting Programs

Practical and insightful, Don’t Bite Your Tongue will help your family dynamics. Be brave enough to answer the questions at the end of each chapter…they’ll give you great insight into your own life and needs.  Then with Dr. Nemzoff’s encouragement, you can change old habits and improve your relationships with your adult children.

— Sue Johnson, author of Grandloving: Making Memories with Your Grandchildren, 4th edition

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